How do you love yourself? Is it through a bath bomb, facial mask, massage, or all of the above? Don’t get me wrong, I too love a long shower with the aroma of scented candles circulating the room, but I don’t believe that we should stop there. Loving yourself is deeper than engaging in a few activities. It is an ONGOING action!
It is the commitment you make to yourself, ensuring that you are living your best life spiritually, mentally, physically, and socially.
Take a second to answer these three easy questions and before you rush through them and say yes, stop and think: “have I ever been in one of these situations, and did my actions match my answer?”
- Do you love yourself enough to leave toxic relationships (both platonic and romantic)?
- Do you give in to negative thoughts about yourself?
- Do you love yourself enough to push through fear and pursue your dreams?
Now, I do not believe that your answers to these questions are revelations to whether you love yourself or not, but they should expose some things. Having a healthy relationship with yourself is so important because it will dictate the quality of your life.
The way you love yourself determines the type of love you think you deserve, the situations you allow to happen in your life, the friendships you make, and the list goes on and on. So be real with yourself. You should be your number one priority at all times, and once you implement that, you will be amazed by how everything will begin to change in a positive direction.
Whether we get distracted by our own insecurities or the ones people try to place on us, you are always going to be tested. It is your job to stay above it, and here are just a few affirmations to do just that.
- You are amazing! Don’t let anyone treat you like your corny, not even yourself. I think Cardi B said it best: “ you even got me trippin’… thinkin’ I’m flawed because you inconsistent.” I’m sure many of us have experienced that at least once. Going through the wringer with school, work, or people can have you questioning yourself in a multitude of ways, but don’t allow it to sink in. Remember who you are.
- You don’t have to explain yourself. People love to act like you owe them something when in all actuality, you don’t! It’s okay to say no when you’re not feeling something, and you don’t have to feel bad about it. The happiest people do what’s best for them, not everyone else.
- People come, and people go. This is something I struggle with, but at a certain point, if someone wants to leave, let them. Hold the door open! The failure of relationships (both platonic and romantic) is a part of life. The only thing you can do is keep moving forward.
I challenge you guys to take a moment to reflect on how you treat yourself and make necessary adjustments. You deserve the most authentic and genuine love there is, starting with the love you give yourself.
~Shauna
~ Thanks for reading. Stay tuned for next week’s post!
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